Staying Calm in the Most Challenging Moments

More than Perfect

I was at a lunch with a group of amazing women entrepreneurs recently and we each drew a card from Danielle LaPorte’s Truth Bomb box. It was a lot of fun. Pictured bellow was my card.
When I pulled it out, I thought “Yes, I do have high standards.” And I do. But then I thought, well, my high standards are sometimes harsh and reaching for perfection. Does that happen to you?

[tweetthis]This year I’ve been working on being less perfect.[/tweetthis] I love the sayings “Don’t let the perfect get in the way of the good” and “Progress, not Perfection.” I remind myself of these often and, I feel, I have loosened the grips of perfection in my life.

How We Feel During Challenges

I share with patients all the time about flowing through life. I was recently in a less than ideal situation with someone I care about. The details of which really don’t matter, because it is my reaction that I want to share. Anything or anybody can rub you the “wrong” way, but it’s how you respond that’s important. In this particular case, I started by feeling really upset and angry, then I shifted to feeling being taken advantage of and eventually ended up in tears 24 hours later when I was confiding in my husband. This doesn’t happen very often to me. When I was in the anger, I was remembering to breathe, I became silent, and got into my physical body. I moved inward for protection. I went through the task at hand and did my best not to “stew” in my negative emotions. I actually did a pretty good job and when I felt safe to share my experience and get perspective, that’s when the tears came. Then it was over. I left it there. Done.

Getting Back on Course

You see, I chose not to continue the feelings and spiral down into a pity party of sorts. Which is really no party I want to attend. Ha! I’m sharing this with you, because you may have high standards and when the people around you don’t live up to your acceptable standard, you may be thrown off course. Find what works best for you to get back on course so that you can move forward in your life with ease and joy. This can be taking a walk in nature, deep belly breathing, meditation or going for a run. Find what works for you and remember to pull it out when you’re in a difficult situation.

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