It’s that time of the year when many of you, about 60%, may have already “Failed” to reach a goal or even stay on track.
You may be in a cycle of blame and shame when you fail to reach a goal. But, were those goals or resolutions aligned with who you really are? Did you ever consider that they might just be judgments against yourself? Whenever I hear the word SHOULD, I consider it a judgment. When you pursue goals based in a judgment, it will only drain your energy and zap the joy out of your life.
Have you ever heard that term, “This or something better” when putting out a desire of something to manifest in your life? It’s such a great phrase and is so often absent from goal setting. When you approach goals with the something better in mind, you are more open to all the other possibilities that the universe provides. When you are tunnel vision on achieving your goal, you may miss all the opportunities that continue to show up. Then you may fail at your specific goal and feel the pain of that failure.
I found this great info from Homaira Kabir:
She is a positive psychology coach and cognitive behavioral therapist. She offers courses and coaching to help women develop the self-confidence and inner strength to identify and achieve their biggest and boldest goals. You can take her free quiz on learning to grow authentic self-worth at her website. www.homairakabir.com
If you’ve already given up on your resolution, and even if you didn’t set any, here’s a way to live that helps you build a life story you’ll be proud to call your own.
Who Do I Want to Be?
Start with any heroes you might admire. They don’t need to be famous people, they could be anyone in your life. Maybe you had a teacher who inspired you or perhaps and uncle that was amazing. Think about what values they uphold. Then consider what are your own characteristics and strengths that make you authentic. How are you different in the various roles in your life?
What Do You Want to Do?
What inspires you? What are you passionate about? This is your WHY. All your goals and efforts should surround your why. Draw a circle and in the middle write your why. Then draw another circle around that one and write HOW you are going to support your WHY. Then draw one more circle around that and write in your WHAT. So many people start with the WHAT and then figure out how, but you can’t do any of this without your WHY. That is your core
How does this become a habit?
Habits are daily actions that help support your efforts at reaching your goals. Kabir states “They are ways of life, or habits that need to be instilled towards your larger goals. Positive habits are our greatest ally in goal pursuit, because they bypass emotional resistance and free up energy to pursue our goals with gusto.”
Remember not to be stuck in your goal. You may need to change them along the way. If you are stuck in struggle, then maybe that’s an indicator that your goal is not in alignment with your authentic self. Be open and ALWAYS start with your WHY.
If you want more info on how to quit a bad habit and replace it with a good one, go to Quitting Bad Habits
Have a great week. Donna